Strength or weakness ? What is it ?

After a long time I have written something here , life been on a real roller coaster ride ,and I have been truly madly away from the computer to actually sit down and write some quality stuff . but since the past few days I’ve been down with motuh ulcers.  First few days was on a water and fruit diet but then , I got powered by my sense of taste 😉  and despit the burning had some masala and mirchi food . Next day I woke up to a big red burning mouth with huge bleeding ulcers and hence decided to keep my mouth shut for some time. My being in this forced silence gave birth to ths blog post and here it is for you to read 🙂

 

Mr.A is a dude , he thinks he owns the planet ( and in some sense he actually does own it ) , He does not take any kind of shit from anyone . He has an attitude he can carry off elegantly , he plays with the world and people , like it were a game of marbles . Having said all this he is also caring , does not want to hurt anyone , wants to take everyone along , loves everyone and is very good at heart ( for the ones who have not understood what I wrote above ,  remember Captain Jack Sparrow from Pirates movies , Mr.A is the same , the good one and the bad one put in one persona ) . The best quality of Mr.A is that he rarely does expect anything form anyone , thus comes his natural strength and freedom with which he walks in the world 🙂 With the good heart that he has , he almost wins every heart that he comes across. Here comes the hitch in his life . Since he is the dude and his high testosterone level continues to win the hearts of many , he equally loves all his girlfriends ( He has many !!! 😀 ) . he never says that he loves this person more or that person more and as is his nature he does not expect anything from them either. This put a lot of his girlfriends in dilemma , to handle such intense love from Mr.A while he expects nothing was not their piece of cake , many of them blamed him , fought with him and in the end left him. They still loved him and he still loved them , but the relationship somehow did not exist in the equation.

Outwardly Mr.A did show a lot of courage and was brave enough to carry a smile through all his break ups , but the story inside was something different.

All through these years , while Mr.A was not expecting anything what so ever from the world , he did get entangled and attached to one female Ms. B .

Ms.B had no great looks or qualities in her . she was a simple sober girl and it was not like she could woo any person walking on the planet , but there was something magnetic about her that Mr.A always got attracted to her more than anyone else. To begin with it was just attraction but later he fell deeply in love with her . He would do anything for her ,would gift her expensive stuff , she was his world for quite a good amount of time . But like all other girls in Mr.A’s life she could not handle his intense love and the fact that he loved many other people with the same intensity . Mr.A did all he could to tell her that she was the one for him , He was completely honest with her and he had so much faith in his his love that he was sure their relationship would pass these strange tides and shine through it. But the other side of the equation ( Ms.B ) lacked the clarity of mind and the intensity to move on with life and give love and trust to their relationship. Instead she was filled with doubt and remorse . The fact that the person whom she loved has shared his heart and body with someone else really killed her. She tried very hard to digest the fact and move on. One side of her heart really longed for Mr.A’s strong intense smile  and to see him pour out his love for her , on the other side she was burning in this fire of his past and saw it as base treachery . These conflict in her mid tore her apart and she gave it up as a bad case and decided to break up with him.

As usual Mr.A being the lover he was , he gave her all the time she wanted and told her to decide it with a cool mind and let it go .

Here ends the story 😀

Now the thought that I am pondering on which made me write this story are as follows :

However strong we are , in love we are so vulnerable . If in case one partner decides to back off from the relationship , What should the other person do ? Should he/she take the relationship along with their strength and commitment and wait for things to work out from their partner’s end , or should they just let go off the relationship ?

 

We say we have to move on and not get stuck with the past , but how easy is it to flush our own past from our mind , and then our partner’s past ( in case he/she decides to share it with us ) ?

 

The most important question is , how do you decide if you want to spend your whole life with this one person or not ? How do you know if you are making the right choice ?

 

Painfully smiling

Kullu 🙂

 

 

 

 

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2 Comments

  1. Let me try answering all your questions now that I have patiently read the really huge post :p

    //Q. If in case one partner decides to back off from the relationship, What should the other person do ? Should he/she take the relationship along with their strength and commitment and wait for things to work out from their partner’s end , or should they just let go off the relationship ?

    Answer: One should ponder why the other decided to leave and go. First, is it for a fair reason that they did it? Second, this girl is not okay with Mr. A sharing his love and body with other girls, is Mr. A’s love so strong enough to change his habits for Ms.B? Does he naturally feel like giving up everything for the happiness of B, if he doesn’t , then it ain’t gonna work. So instead of making two people unhappy, its best to let go. This is a question of priorities, if Mr. A really wants Ms. B, nothing else would really seem important other that the happiness of being with Ms.B and spending the rest of the life wiht Ms.B

    //Q.We say we have to move on and not get stuck with the past , but how easy is it to flush our own past from our mind , and then our partner’s past ( in case he/she decides to share it with us ) ?

    Answer: love becoming friendship is = BULLSHIT. To move away from the past, get rid of everything related to B and start a new life. Sharing life after something as terrible as this is really hard and almost impossible, unless one of them is really heartless and doesn’t care about the other’s feelings.

    //Q.The most important question is , how do you decide if you want to spend your whole life with this one person or not ? How do you know if you are making the right choice ?

    Answer: I don’t know the answer for this 😦 You will have to wait and see in the future. I think its basically about compromises and making the choice of being committed to the one whom you decide to spend time with, even if in the future some disagreements appear. You simply agree to disagree because the person and the relationship you share with them becomes more important than your ideologies.

  2. i wanted to tell u, you are reading too many romantic stories, coz narration was crap.. why do we meditate.. moving on is easier then.. if true love, past hardly matters,. It is your stupid concepts about right and wrong that affects not s much as the person. I think, relationship helps us know ourselves better, whether it lasts long or not…If person can’t accept past, might as well not be with person. Or if you want the person badly, needn’t tell all.. depends what you want in relationship..

    you take the plunge maa.. when you meditate doubts will be little less.. but will be there. only time can tell.

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