Day in and day out, we are interacting with people, we judge them, we like to be around some of them, we do not like to be around some, every person we interact with makes us feel certain things inside and based on our memory we judge if these feelings are good(or bad) for us and hence decide to be around a particular set of people, or not be around a particular set of them.
A few days back I was asked who my best friend was, and before I could answer, the rest of my friends present there said “Iske to bohot best friends hai” (He has a lot of best friends). I laughed it out, but I thought about it and saw a few things that I have done in my life and the people I know have done in their lives to make their connections strong with people around them. So here are few pointers I thought would make a good read:
- A lot of bonding happens when we eat food together, if you look back in your life the people with whom you regularly eat food with over time become your very good friends. I do not know how it works, but it definitely does. How I have applied this in my life is as follows: Whenever I have to catch up with a long lost friend or have had a fight with some friend and want to make things up, I meet them over food, pamper them, feed them what they love, put my full heart and happily dine with them, listen to all that they want to complain/talk/shout about.Tilll now 100% of the times it has happened that at the end of the meal my connection with the person has grown stronger. Believe me FOOD never fails 🙂
- A lot of jokes that close friends crack revolve around sex. It somehow catches people’s attention, sometimes conversations start with how hot a particular a movie actor is, soon we see a group of friends cracking non-veg jokes on people around them, major youth gossip revolves around who is going around with whom, discussing crush/heart-breakes/first dates/love bites etc. Adult jokes are a good laugh and are cracked only with friends who you don’t feel will judge you, friends who accept you for who you are, friends with whom you feel at home, generally these kind of friends know you inside out and know how strong or weak your character is too.
- People connect also because of love, this love need not necessarily be towards each other, it can also be love for someone else or something else other than the both of them. Some people become very good friends because they love playing board games, they love travelling, they love cars etc. Whilst this type of bonding can be short lived, I have made a lot of good friends because of common interests too. It need not necessarily be short lived too.
- There is a certain vibration that everyone sends out while interacting with people, the kind of vibrations you carry anywhere is the way you will make people feel when you are around them. And this is the basis of any connection we make. People would want to be around you or spend time with you primarily because of how you make them feel when they are with you. For this you cannot take a pill/tonic to make your vibration better. Usually we see that people who are stress free, who are generally happy more often in life, people who are content, have a very good vibe and people will want to be around them. So the final and the best way to maintain relationships is to have a good vibe, this comes by being happy and content. This works even better than food.
How to be happy and content??? Watch out for the next post!!!
P.S – If you feel something can be added to this list, do comment, would love to read 🙂
Lots of love